To those hindered from progress or simply wounded from harmful, bashing and ugly remarks, it’s now time for a nice calming thought along with a nice soothing beverage as you read the following:
Demeaning, harsh, insulting words can definitely become hurtful even to the point of affecting one’s health. Many of us are guilty of it at one time or another saying something we regret — intentionally or unintentionally; but to constantly use a hurtful tongue against another is abusive and should not to be ignored. The abuser may have issues of his/her own, but that’s another subject.
For the recipient, however, words can strike deeper than a knife. The good news, is that the recipient can survive. Depending on the individual and situation it may take a while or not very long, but it can be done.
Not everyone is born with a duck’s back where water would roll off — then again, even a duck can drown in torrential waters; thus, the need to seek shelter.
Healing involves a few things. Honest self-examination; good and wholesome association; positive environment and entertainment; and let’s not forget — self-love.
Examining ourselves with honesty helps us to understand our capabilities and our makeup. Some of us are more sensitive than others, but must still learn how to ward off “crazy-glue” words. When we realize what may have triggered the issue, we must immediately get out the first aid kit and nurture the wound. How? Prayer, meditation, nurturing literature, and even a good run/walk. If we suffer from severe depression that is crippling us, we must seek profession care — nothing to be ashamed — we go to the doctor for our body and we go to another doctor for our mind.
Good loving and compassionate friend(s), family members who are understanding and confidential, or even a minister who will happily share scriptural consolation can give us a shot of positive hope and relief. An old wise saying is, “Keep on asking, and it will be given you; keep on seeking, and you will find; keep on knocking, and it will be opened to you. For everyone asking receives, and everyone seeking finds, and to everyone knocking it will be opened.” (Matt. 7:7, 8)
Open the windows and let in the light and smile (even when you don’t feel like it). Think of others who are faced with trials (illnesses, tragedies, etc.) beyond what we can imagine, yet survive because of their love for life and obtaining the hope of personal joy. Really, it’s out there in this crazy world.
Avoid going back into the snare of negativity. Forgive those who are hurtful (I know – easy said than done, but try) because we are forgiven every day whether we realize it or not. Push the hurtful thoughts far back by welcoming the company of people who are doing the same thing you are doing — making the best of life with wisdom and good conscience.
Use your experience as your tool to perhaps help others who may have faced similar hurts. What a good friend you can become because you can actually offer sincere empathy,because you’ve been there; thus, giving other victims hope. Helping others also strengthens us. Really.
And now last but not least …
Self-love. Offering compassion, help and understanding (as mentioned above) are already positive signs of recovery. Over time you will look back and see a huge accomplishment for your own positive acts. The past naysayers and cruel words become very small, as your positive and emotional wealth and support grows. Remember, we can’t please everyone. Talking often about the harsh words and/or abuser would only give them power over us. They’re not worth it.
When we continue to appreciate who we really are; those past harsh words will eventually dissipate and no longer matter; eventually we heal spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. We find that good association and positive thinking of self and others drown out the negatives. Should harsh words pop again, we know what to do. Rather succumb or become paralyzed, we quietly retaliate by moving on and relish our wonderful refuge of nurturing and love from those who are dear to us.